Why We Celebrate Relationships Until Marriage Comes

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They fall in love without permission. They claim their rights as adults. They make their own choices. But the moment marriage comes, they run back to their parents. This is the hypocrisy destroying young love – and sometimes, destroying lives.

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Here's the hypocrisy we all see but few acknowledge: Young people claim their right to choose their partners. They date without permission. They move in together. They declare their love openly.

But the moment the word "marriage" is mentioned, everything changes. Suddenly, they're not adults anymore. Suddenly, they need permission. Suddenly, they hide behind their parents and say, "My parents won't accept it."

Really? Are they your parents' children, or are they yours?

"They preach freedom and choice, then hide behind tradition when it matters. This is not love. This is cowardice wearing the mask of respect."

💔 The Double Standard That Destroys Love

Watch any young couple in Indian society and you'll see this pattern:

Dating: "We have the right to choose. We're adults. The Constitution gives us freedom."

Marriage: "But my parents won't accept it. They come from a different background. What can we do?"

What changed? The person is the same. The love is the same. The only thing that changed is that now it's "official" – and now their parents' opinion suddenly matters more than their own conviction.

If you truly believed in your right to choose, why does marriage scare you into submission?

💡 The Real Issue: It's not that they're wrong to respect their parents. It's that they claim courage and independence when courting, then claim helplessness when committing. That's not respect – that's dishonesty.

🎭 The Wealthy's Game – And It's Most Visible There

You want to see this hypocrisy in its purest form? Look at wealthy families.

Their son brings home a girlfriend. The family ignores it. "He's young, let him have his fun." But the moment marriage is discussed, they withdraw.

"No, no. We can't accept someone from a different caste/religion/community. What will people say?"

So the son – who claimed his right to love, who lived with his girlfriend, who posted pictures on social media – suddenly becomes a puppet in his mother's hands.

And the girl? She's left with nothing. No relationship. No marriage. No respect. Abandoned by someone who swore to stand by her.

This is not noble. This is betrayal.

☠️ From Betrayal to Tragedy – Honor Killings

And in some cases, it goes even darker.

When rejection isn't enough – when family honor is "threatened" – it escalates. Honor killings aren't just some rural, backward phenomenon. They happen in educated families. They happen in cities. They happen because someone dared to love someone their parents didn't approve of.

A girl and boy, both adults, both in love, both willing – but killed in the name of honor. All because they threatened the family's imaginary reputation.

What honor is there in murder? What pride is there in controlling love?

🔄 The Cycle Never Ends

The tragedy is that this hypocrisy perpetuates itself. Today's victims become tomorrow's oppressors.

The girl whose relationship was rejected grows up and tells her daughter: "Don't love someone from that caste. It will destroy us." The boy who abandoned his girlfriend for his parents' sake grows up and does the same to his own children.

The cycle continues. And with each generation, we lose more love stories to false honor.

🌟 What Needs to Change – Starting With Courage

If you truly believe in a person, stand by them. Not just in dating. Stand by them when marriage comes. Stand by them when your family objects. Stand by them even when it costs you.

If you're a parent: Listen to your children. Really listen. Not with judgment, but with openness. Your child's happiness matters more than society's gossip. Your child's future matters more than your honor.

If you're young and in love: Know your own mind. Don't claim rights you're not willing to fight for. Either have the courage to choose, or don't waste another person's love by pretending you do.

Stop sacrificing love for shame. Stop choosing honor over happiness. Stop killing what's alive because it threatens what's dead.

Real honor is in keeping promises. Real love is in showing up.
Not in hiding behind parents. Not in killing what matters.

Choose wisely. Be honest. Have the courage to love fully – or don't love at all.

🏷️ Tags: Love & Marriage • Caste & Relationships • Hypocrisy • Honor Killings • Social Issues • Family Pressure • Life Insights • Meri Baat • Prafull Talks

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